Hello and welcome to this week's episode of Spunky Spirit.
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I am psychic medium, Cari Mugz,
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and today we are gonna talk about finding,
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living a magical life.
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So finding the magic in every moment or in each day.
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Because I do know that a lot of people who've been reaching
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out or a lot of people who've been watching Cari Connects
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have kind of been like, it's so hard right now,
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it's just a lot of chaos.
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And so I feel like, I feel like life is always like that,
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right?
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I feel like we always think, well, when this happens,
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it'll get better or things will come down when.
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And I was just talking to my husband the other night
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and he was like, that's, we've always kind of just been like,
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well, it should come down this time or it should be when,
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when this happens, things will come down.
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And it's never like that.
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It's always a little bit chaotic.
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So I think the trick is, is to find the magic in each day
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and find the magic in each moment.
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Even if it's chaotic or stressful or,
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which I know can be hard and this is not toxic positivity.
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I'm not saying be 100% happy all the time,
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but just know that life is hard.
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Life can be hard sometimes
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and you can't have the good without the bad, right?
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And so even in the bad moments though,
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you can find a silver lining
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or you can find something to be grateful for
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or something to be grateful about.
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And that doesn't mean, we're gonna talk about this too
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because I know there are sometimes,
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what I really wanna get across is that
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you always have to process the feelings and the emotions
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that come with the everyday stuff, right?
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I want you to do that.
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But I also want you to find the silver linings.
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I also want you to kind of find gratitude in things
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or gratitude and happiness.
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It doesn't mean you can't feel
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the emotions that you're going through.
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It doesn't mean that shit isn't hard, right?
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It just means that how you react to it
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or how you come through it is so important
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and to find the little blessings
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or the little magic in each instant
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or in each circumstance.
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So number one, these are gonna be simple, not simple,
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but these are gonna be ways to find
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or to find magic in each day or in your life.
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So number one is to be a good person.
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I've always, I used to work at Snow West Magazine
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and I worked with a lady, she was awesome
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and she always just said, she just believed,
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she's the first one that kind of taught me
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about manifestation and she said,
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you just get what you put out there.
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So if you are a good person
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and you put good things out there,
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you're gonna receive that back.
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Not 100%, not all the time because life is gonna happen
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and life, earth can be hard.
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Earth, earth life can be hard sometimes.
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But the majority of you put, you get back
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what you put out there.
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What you put out there, you get back.
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And what I mean by putting out there
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is how be a good person, be a good person to others.
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And sometimes, and I know we're kind of taught
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in a world that we have to help others all the time
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or we feel bad if we don't help others
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or we have to give, give, give.
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Sometimes you don't have enough to give
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and that's okay, there's a season to everything.
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There's a season to when you have enough energy
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and time and money to give
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and there's a season when you might not
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and you might need to get help from other people.
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But right now or in any time,
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you can always be a good person.
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You can always be a good person.
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And you always, so this whole thing of you get
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what you put out there is really, really important to me
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because karma is not a revengeful law.
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It's not something that's like,
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oh, they're gonna get theirs.
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Karma is a universal law
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and it just means what you put out there,
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you're gonna receive.
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So if you keep putting out there complaints
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and everything that's bad about your life
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and you keep talking about it and dwelling on it,
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you're gonna get that back.
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And if you are bad to people or mean to people,
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you're gonna get that back to you.
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So of course, if you have that focus
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of being rude to people
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and always being mad about something
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or always find something to be mad about,
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you're gonna get that back
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because we've always talked about that.
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It's part of manifesting.
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It's part of that alignment, right?
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So like I've taught before,
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if you put a guitar, two guitars together
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and you put them on a table and on one guitar,
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you pick at the G string,
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at the other guitar, that G string is gonna vibrate.
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So it's basically that guitar is receiving
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what it puts out there.
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So that's kind of how you are.
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You're going to get what you put out there.
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And so if you put bad,
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bad, chaotic, mean things out there
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and you're rude to people all the time,
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you're gonna get that back.
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That's just the way the universe works.
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That's just how it is.
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So be a good person all the time.
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Like you don't always have to,
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you can stand up for yourself
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and you can have boundaries,
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but you can also be a good person.
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Boundaries doesn't mean you get to either be bad or good
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or you get to be mean or nice.
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There can always be an in-between.
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So be a good person.
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That's the number one thing to finding magic
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because if you wanna find magic in your everyday life,
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you gotta put it out there.
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So you gotta just and hope for it.
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You gotta hope for it and know that it's coming.
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And so be a good person.
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Number two is stay away from those who aren't.
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And so stay away from the people
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who are always, always complaining.
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Stay away from the people who are always mean
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or treating you crappy.
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Stay away from those people.
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You can build those boundaries.
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Like you don't always have to be around them.
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And this is that fine line, right?
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Like you can still be a good person
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and still put good things out there,
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but that doesn't mean you have to sacrifice yourself
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to be there for somebody else.
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If somebody else is not nice
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and somebody else is not treating you very well
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or somebody else complains continuously
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or all the time, you don't have to be around that person.
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So just kind of watch that.
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Just kind of build those boundaries
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and you can send them love from a distance.
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Send them white light from a distance.
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Send them love from a distance,
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but you don't have to be around them all the time.
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And if you are around them, you can protect yourself
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because if it's in a situation where you have to be
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and you don't have a choice that you have to,
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you can be around them, you have to be around them,
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then kind of create some boundaries.
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Create your own boundaries.
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Create your own protection.
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Wear terminating necklaces or bracelets.
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Do white light around you.
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Do a cloak on or cloak off kind of meditation
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where you can surround yourself with protection.
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But so try and stay away from those people
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who always just bring you down
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or who always drain your energy
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because when you're always in that constant negativity
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or that constant frequency,
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then it's hard to find the good in things.
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It's hard to find what to be grateful for
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and or what to be happy about.
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So if it's constant negativity,
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you gotta like tweak that somehow
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and tweak that you don't have to be around that all the time.
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Number three is focus on the little things.
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It doesn't always have to be super complex.
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It doesn't always have to be like super big.
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It can be the little things that bring you joy.
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It can be a cup of coffee in the morning.
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Simplicity is like magic is simplicity.
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We think that we have to have like all these spells
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or all these ways to make it happen
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or like to connect to spirit
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that we have to like have this training
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and all this stuff.
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And sometimes that helps,
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but honestly it's really in the simplicity.
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It's just you have to keep it simple.
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Connection to the divine
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or connection to your loved ones is simple.
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You just find a place, relax and start talking to them.
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It's simple.
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And so this is in your life.
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Find the simplicity in your life.
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Find the simple things.
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What brings you,
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what are the simple things that bring you joy?
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Is it your grandchild or your child laughing?
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Is it you laughing?
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Is it you watching a stupid sitcom every night
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and laughing?
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Is it the cup of coffee in the morning?
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Is it sitting outside in your backyard?
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What brings you joy
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and try and incorporate that each day in your life?
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Make it simple.
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It doesn't have to be big.
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It doesn't have to be a yacht on the Riviera
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or a big, huge and wonderful grand hotel.
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That, I mean, those things are great
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and those things are awesome,
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but so are the simple little things.
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And sometimes the things that bring us the most joy
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are the simple things that we kind of look past
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or we kind of take for granted.
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So kind of look every day for the simple things
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and have gratitude for them.
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Say thank you for them,
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even if it's just, oh, the other day,
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like I can't have, I love cats, but I can't have any
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because my grandkids are allergic to them.
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And the other day a cat just came in my backyard
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and the simplicity of just petting that cat
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for an hour was amazing.
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So just little tiny things that just bring you pleasure,
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bring you joy.
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Find those, those things are magical.
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That's where the magic is.
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And I have said this before,
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the Native Americans believe that everything
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that happens to you has some meaning in it
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or has some magic in it or means or sign in it.
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And I don't know if everything does,
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but I do believe that coincidences aren't real.
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I believe that coincidences are something
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that's happening for a reason.
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So the next one, number four, be authentic, be you.
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You cannot find magic when you're pretending
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to be somebody that you're not.
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You cannot be happy in a moment
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where you're trying to be like somebody else.
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You cannot find the magic in the moment
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if you're trying to hide who you truly are
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or be who you truly are and hide your shine.
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That's if you're trying to dim your sparkle
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or dim your shine, then it's gonna make it so it's miserable.
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You're gonna be miserable.
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So if you want to be authentically you
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and you want to find the magic,
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you need to find those people who accept you
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for who you are.
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That doesn't mean you can be rude
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or you can be overbearing to people.
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You still have to let people have their boundaries.
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You have to let, if you're too much for people,
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then find other people that you're not too much for.
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But don't hurt other people's boundaries either.
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Does that make sense?
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If you're authentically you, you're gonna find your people.
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You're gonna find the people who accept you for who you are
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and find the people who don't think you're too much
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or too less.
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So find those people and be authentically you.
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Once you become authentically you
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and you be true to who you are,
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then you're gonna find those people.
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It's like a magnet.
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You're gonna be aligned with the universe
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and they're gonna come to you.
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Number five, don't fear happiness.
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Like we, this is kind of like self-sabotage, right?
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I remember one time when I was, had four kids
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and we were living in Utah.
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And I remember we saved and saved and saved
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for these couches and we lived in a rental
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and they didn't even go with the decor, nothing,
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but I loved these couches so much and we bought them.
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And I remember thinking the first day we had them,
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I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm not even gonna be,
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something bad's gonna happen to them.
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Either the kids are gonna spill something on them
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or not even to be able to enjoy them.
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And then I just thought, you know what?
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I am fearing, like I always had this thing
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that if something is going to,
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if something is going right,
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if everything's going right,
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something is gonna happen 'cause this can't last.
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This can't last all the time.
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And I created, I manifested the bad things to come
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because I thought, oh, life is too good.
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Life is too good 'cause I just bought couches.
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Like really?
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Like that's crazy to me now that I think about it.
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But I just thought, oh my gosh, like,
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but it was cool that the couches brought me happiness, right?
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You, I mean, it's something that I enjoyed,
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it's something that I wanted
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and it's something that I strived for that I wanted.
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And so it was cool that I found the magic in the couches,
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but it was sad that I was afraid that it wasn't gonna last.
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And so don't fear happiness, don't fear success,
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let that go, like just let it happen.
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Enjoy the journey, enjoy the, enjoy the journey,
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enjoy what you're experiencing
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and try and find peace in what you're experiencing
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and not always look for a better way.
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I mean, it's good to have goals
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and it's good to have, you know, to look forward to things,
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but also it's the journey is what's most important.
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So always enjoy the journey.
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And then I think it's number six, stay positive.
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Now this isn't like toxic positivity.
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If there's a problem, fix it.
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If there's something going wrong, try and fix it.
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Don't like pretend it's not happening
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and be like, oh, everything is gonna be just fine.
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Try and fix the problem.
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That's the thing I always told my kids.
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It's not that you're ignoring the problem.
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If you aren't ignoring the problem, if you're just like,
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oh, it's gonna be fine and you pretend it's not happening.
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And so this is not toxic positivity.
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This isn't like, okay, I'm having these issues at work,
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but I'm just gonna go in there
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and pretend everything is fine.
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One, you're not being authentically you.
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Two, it is toxic positivity.
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You gotta feel those emotions.
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You gotta deal with those problems
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and you gotta try and fix them.
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Because I always told my kids
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that if you complain about it, you can fix it.
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Everything is figure outable.
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And my kids are always like, no, sir,
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you can't fix if you have a crappy job.
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And I'm like, yes, you can.
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You're afraid to fix it, but you can fix it.
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You can leave that job.
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You have that choice.
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But one of my kids did say, well, you can't fix death.
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And that is one thing you can't fix,
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but you can fix how to grieve.
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You can't fix how to grieve
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'cause you wanna grieve in your own way
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and you wanna be authentic when you grieve.
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But how you react to a loss is all of it too.
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Because you can react by staying home,
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being depressed, not living out your life
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the way they would want you to,
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turning to drugs and alcohol,
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turning to those kind of things.
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Or you can grieve and grieve the loss
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and go through those emotions and go through counseling
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and try to figure out how to move forward.
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So there's always something you can do
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to make it better, always.
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Just you don't have to,
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the way you think it might be better
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is to have that loss come back
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and that's not always true.
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You have to learn to accept it and move forward
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or you can dwell in it.
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And I know that's kind of harsh,
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but that's kind of how it is.
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But if you take a long time to grieve, that's okay too.
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You grieve how you want to
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because you have to be authentically you.
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But always try to find the gratitude and things.
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Try and be aware of that person
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or that thing that you lost.
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That you lost and try to celebrate that person
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in a way that you can or that thing that you lost.
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So if you can complain about it,
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if you complain about it, you can change it.
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You may not like how to change it,
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which maybe you might have to get out of the relationship.
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You may have to get out of the job.
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The only thing you can't really change
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is if you're a mother of small children,
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you can't change,
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you can't change, but you kind of can.
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You can kind of change how you deal with them
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or how your perception of them is
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or how you, if you have a problem,
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instead of just dealing with it, you can try and fix it.
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You can try and say, okay,
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this is how I'm gonna try it tomorrow
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or this is how I'm gonna try it the next day.
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So if you complain about something,
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you can figure out how to fix it some way or another,
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but if you feel like you can't fix it,
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then you have to change your perception of it, right?
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Because you have to live in your choices.
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So if you decide not to change it
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or you decide to just live in your choices,
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then you gotta change your perception, okay?
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So that's the stay positive.
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So just kind of stay positive about your life
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and find the simple things,
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even if there's like some things that are hard,
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find the simple things in each moment,
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find the simple things that you can be grateful for,
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even if it's just for a cat,
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that comes and visits you in your backyard.
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Just be grateful, even if it's just like flowers
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that you saw that day,
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something that you can find simple in,
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because those are magical.
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Those may seem ordinary, but they're magical.
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They're magical moments, right?
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And sometimes those magical moments
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are your ancestors and your guides
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bringing happiness to you or simplicity to you
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in a time that's really, really hard.
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So the next one is to work.
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Find something that you love,
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find something that you like to do.
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And this is not selfish and this is not,
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I know some of you are like,
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"Well, I gotta wait 'til the kids grow up
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or I've gotta, don't wait for you to be you.
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Don't wait for you to find happiness in something
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or to find joy in something."
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'Cause it can be simple.
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It can be super simple.
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You can find joy in eating a piece of chocolate
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in the morning before the kids wake up.
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You can find joy in drinking a cup of coffee
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every morning, your favorite kind.
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You can find joy in watching or listening
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to one of your guilty pleasure or your sitcoms at night
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when the kids go to sleep or when you're by yourself,
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but find something that you love.
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And that's not really work.
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Now, the work is when you work.
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And I know, I don't really believe in the,
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well, I do believe in keeping things simple,
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but I don't believe in working so hard
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that you work yourself to death.
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Like, I believe that there is a fine line
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between work hard and work smart.
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And I feel like that once you kind of,
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but I do feel like that doing work brings you accomplishment
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and brings you a feeling of accomplishment,
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brings you a feeling of pleasure
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and like meeting your goals.
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So I guess work would mostly be like,
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not maybe nine to five,
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but having goals and a purpose and working towards that.
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Because when you're kind of in a stagnant state,
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then you're not growing, you're not moving.
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And so, and that's when you're kind of in limbo,
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but when you're moving forward for something
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and you kind of know what you want,
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then that's growth and that's work.
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And so that's what I would consider work.
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So find something to work forward to work towards
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because that brings you purpose and brings you pleasure.
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And the last one would be be aware,
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be aware of what's going on around you
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because there's so many times that your loved ones
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and your ancestors and your guides reach out to you
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and do things like give you signs and symbols
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and we just don't see them
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because we're so busy in the chaos
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and we're so busy in the craziness of each day
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that we don't see the signs.
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And so start maybe meditating a little bit.
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It doesn't have to be,
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it can be moving meditation, dancing,
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it could be something,
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but find something that helps you be aware
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of what's going on around you
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because you could have a super chaotic moment, I remember.
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My grandma came to visit me
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when I was taking care of my first baby, my first daughter.
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And it was chaotic.
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She was so, so colicky.
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I can't even believe I had other kids
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'cause she was so hard.
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I remember sitting in the rocking chair,
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oh my gosh, just like rocking her and she was crying
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and I was crying and it was like nonstop
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'cause she would cry in her sleep too.
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So my grandma came to help
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and it was one of those moments where she was crying,
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I was crying, my grandma was like, what do I do?
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And all of a sudden, all of a sudden,
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one of my baby's toys, one of her little toys,
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like it was like a little musical thing started to play.
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And all of a sudden she just, the baby started looking
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and she stopped crying for just like a brief moment.
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She stopped crying and for like five minutes,
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we just listened to this little thing play.
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And my grandma looked at me and she said,
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you know, that's my mom.
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And I said, I know.
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A lot of people would have just was like,
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oh my gosh, that was crazy.
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That was weird.
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But we knew in the moment that we were,
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it was a hard, it was a hard moment.
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And we knew we were just like making it every second, right?
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Like you take every minute and just try
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and get through it sometimes.
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And that little moment, we could have missed it.
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We could have thought, oh, that was just that toy.
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That toy is just being stupid, but we knew,
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we knew that it was my great grandmother
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coming through and helping us and taking
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and giving us just peace for five minutes.
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And so be aware, be aware of the little things in the chaos.
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Like, and that's when they come most of the time.
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Like one time you've heard me tell the story
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about how I put up all the Christmas lights
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and put everything up and I put up my Christmas tree
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and I didn't check the lights before I put them on
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and I plugged it in and I had four little kids running around
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and I was just trying to get a Christmas.
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And I said, dad, the Christmas lights didn't work
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on the tree, half of them didn't work.
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And I said, dad, if you want to give me anything
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for my birthday, please let the Christmas lights work.
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And the next morning they did.
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So just little things.
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If you're running around and having a cataclysm moment
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with the kids and you get in the car
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and a certain song comes on and you know
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what belongs to someone you've lost,
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then or you know that someone you've lost
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is sending you a sign or sending you that moment,
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then just breathe, breathe in that moment.
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So be aware, be aware of what's going on
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because so many times the spirit world reaches out to us
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and lets us know that there is magic in every single day.
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We are magic.
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The magic's already inside of you.
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I tell you guys that all the time.
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So just be you and try and just get through this journey
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and be a good person.
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And it's all pretty self-explanatory
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but sometimes we get so caught up in the chaos
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and so caught up in the mess and so caught up in the stress
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that we just don't see the simple things
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or we don't see the little things.
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And those are the things that are magic,
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that are magical every single day of your life.
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So I really hope that helps you guys.
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Magic isn't complex.
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It's not done in a certain way.
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It's just you, it's who you are, it's what you create
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and you create the magic.
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So remember you have everything you need
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already inside of you and I love you guys so much
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and I have so much coming up.
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If you wanna check out my March events,
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then you can go to my Instagram or to my website.
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I have a night with spirit event coming up
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where I'm going to have an audience
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that I'm going to read for.
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I also have a photograph spirit circle coming up
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on March 14th where you bring a photo of your loved one
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and we try and connect to them.
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And I also have a class about how to meet your guides
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and it's gonna be March 23rd on a Saturday.
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It's a three hour class.
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If you want any information for those,
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I'll have them listed down below
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or you can go to my Instagram or my Facebook
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and try or my website and find all that information.
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But I love you guys so much.
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I really do and I mean it
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and I will talk to you guys next week.
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