Be Your Own Spiritual Super Hero

In this episode I talk about self sabotage and how to over come it by being your own spiritual super hero.

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Episode Transcript

Hello and welcome to this week's episode of Spunky Spirit,
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I am psychic medium, Carrie Mugs,
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and this week we are gonna talk about
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spiritual self-sabotage.
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So we all kinda know what self-sabotage is.
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It's when we are afraid of things
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or we kind of self, we self-sabotage ourselves.
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We unknowingly do things that make it so
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we can't complete our goals
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or we can't do the things that we want to in life
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or that stops us from attaining the life we want.
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Spiritual self-sabotage is the same thing.
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There's a certain goal we want to get to spiritually
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or that we're starting to get into our awakening
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and sometimes we stop it because we get nervous
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or we get fearful and this is really common,
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especially in the spiritual realm
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because when you're trying to work on your spiritual gifts
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or you're trying to work on your spiritual awakening,
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sometimes we can self-sabotage that
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because we don't want change
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and spiritual awakenings and spiritual growth
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make, come with a lot of changes
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and we don't, we know, we think what we want
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but then when things start to happen
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because spiritual growth is an inside job,
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then we don't wanna go through the work
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or the shadow work or the work to get to the growth
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because spiritual growth is,
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we feel like it's an outside thing
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and we feel like it connects us better
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but really the connection is within ourselves
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and the connection is to our own soul
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which raises our frequency
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and makes us spiritually advanced in the outside.
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So what we create on the inside
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is what helps us advance on the outside
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and so it's really hard
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because we self-sabotage our spiritual growth
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because of fear and fear of change
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and fear of all the stuff.
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So regular self-sabotage is when you hinder
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your own success, right?
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So this could be in a relationship
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or in a career, in family things,
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you hinder your own success
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because you don't want the change.
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So some self-sabotage in relationships
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is when you don't wanna feel the hurt or the pain
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so you break up first.
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I was really, really good at doing that sometimes
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and some ways that we do self-sabotage
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is with procrastination.
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We put it off.
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We say we're gonna do it, but we put it off
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and this is with anything.
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So a lot of times this self-sabotage stuff
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is only not with spiritual stuff too
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but with our own lives.
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So if this is like in any corner of your life,
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like your career, which could be a spiritual career
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or with your family or with relationships
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then this is, it can be in any kind of self-sabotage
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but I wanna focus on a little bit
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of spiritual self-sabotage
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because lots of people are starting to awaken
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or see the number sequences and do the things
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and they wanna do the work 'cause they wanna grow
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and they wanna be more spiritual
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but they don't wanna do the deep work, the shadow work
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and so that hinders them or stops them.
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When in reality, when you come out on the other side of that
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it is so beautiful and so worth it.
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You just don't feel like it when you're going in it
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and when you're doing it, when you're going through the work.
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So probably procrastination is a big one.
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Like perfectionism, it has to be perfect,
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it has to be the way you want to.
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And that's the one thing about this
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is when you are growing in a career
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or when you're growing in a relationship
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or when you're growing in your spiritual awakening
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it is not going to go, especially in the spiritual awakening.
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You feel like this is how it's supposed to go.
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This is the way it's supposed to go.
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I'm supposed to learn this thing, I'll buy some crystals.
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It's gonna be this, it's gonna be beautiful,
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it's gonna be rables and roses
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and that is not how it goes.
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So you get defeated and you feel like
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there's something wrong and so you stop.
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You stop doing the spiritual growth
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because it's not perfect and this is where you lose control.
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So you feel like you're at a loss of control
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and for people who need control
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this is really, really hard, really, really hard.
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So and also to self-criticism
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because you think it's supposed to go a certain way
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in your head, this is kind of like the perfectionism.
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You think it's supposed to go a certain way in your head
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and when it doesn't go that way, you wanna quit
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or you wanna stop or you think it's too hard
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and this is super common, especially with spiritual growth
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because spiritual growth,
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I think I was teaching a class one time
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and one of my students was like,
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'cause I was trying to explain,
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you got to do some shadow work
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and shadow work is you gotta love all parts of yourself.
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You gotta figure out how to love all the parts of yourself
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that went through the trauma
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and all the parts of yourself
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that maybe didn't handle the trauma okay
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and you got the, I mean, there's no right
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or wrong way to handle trauma, right?
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So you have got to love all of those.
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So when I was going through maybe some of my divorce trauma,
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I have figured out in some of my counseling
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that I don't feel like now I handled it very well
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and I look back and see,
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I could have handled that a lot differently
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but that's who I was at the time.
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Now I could stop and stop doing that counseling
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but I know that that counseling is a trigger
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or shadow work that I need to get through
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to help me deal with now
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'cause I need to love who I was during the divorce person
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even though I would do it differently now,
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I need to love all aspects of me to grow spiritually
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because now I'm going to hit a spiritual growth spurt
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or hit a spiritual thing that's gonna trigger
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and I've got to be able to love who I was
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or who I got to be able to love that person regardless
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'cause it's all about loving unconditionally,
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especially ourselves.
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So now if I go into some sort of spiritual growth
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and I get triggered because of who I was
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or how I acted back then,
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I've got to be able to look at that person,
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look at that part of me and give myself grace
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and know that I did the best
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instead of just stopping and being like,
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okay, I don't want to do this anymore.
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I don't want to confront that
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because on the outside of that
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is I've got to face that I didn't handle it very well.
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I could have handled it better
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and I've got to do some self-examination
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and even though I'm older
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and I would have handled it different now,
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I still got to be able to love the person,
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love who I was then
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because you know what, I did the best that I could then.
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So that's what the self-sabotage is.
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I could get to that part and be like,
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I don't want to do this
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and so I don't want to grow any more spiritually.
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Now, why do you have to deal?
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'Cause a lot of people are like,
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oh, that's in the back, that doesn't,
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and I used to be one of those people.
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I used to be one of those people that are like,
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you know what, that was in the past.
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I want to let that go and just move forward.
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But sometimes you have to deal with your past
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to move forward because there's going to be things
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coming in your forward that are going to trigger that
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and you're not going to get past it
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because you didn't deal with it, you didn't process it.
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So I used to be a big believer in let's just move on
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and let's not bring it up and let's not dwell on it
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and I don't.
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If I don't, I'm not going through something
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that I don't need to process that.
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So the reason why I needed to process that
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is because I was having issues with family gatherings
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and I needed to process 'cause I thought
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that I wasn't good enough at these family gatherings
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or I needed to handle them,
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I needed to control them somehow.
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And it's because of my guilt and my shame that I felt,
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this is kind of getting too into me,
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but I'm trying to make it a point
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why you have to maybe dig up some of that stuff.
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I, to get through these present time things
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that were causing me anxiety,
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I had to figure out where they were coming from
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and that's where they were coming from.
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Now, do I need to just go into the past and be like,
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oh, remember all that stuff that happened to me?
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I need to figure out that stuff.
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No, I don't have to bring it up
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if it's not hindering for moving forward now.
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But because it was hindering for me for moving forward now,
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it was me self-sabotaging family get-togethers.
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It was me not wanting to get together as a family
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with my family because I didn't like the way I handled it.
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I had some shame around some stuff
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that I had done in the past.
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So I had to figure out how to get past that
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so I could have my family gatherings now be okay.
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So it's not something I just was like,
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oh, I gotta figure that out.
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It was something that that,
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I'm having trouble with dealing with this right now.
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I gotta figure out why
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and I gotta figure out where it comes from
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and I gotta figure out how to love that person
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that made that mistake or did that.
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So that's what we self-sabotage ourselves with.
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We, a lot of aspects were like,
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well, I'm just gonna stop having family gatherings
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and I'm not gonna grow anymore as a person spiritually
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and I'm not gonna go
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'cause I don't wanna do that shadow work.
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So that's why we stop.
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That's why our growth stops
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because we don't wanna go, it's too painful.
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It's too painful to remember that time
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and it's too painful to remember
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why you did the things you did back then
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and so you self-sabotage
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and you don't wanna grow anymore and you stop.
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And it's same with our work, same thing with our work.
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We stop in our careers, we don't wanna go any further.
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We tell ourselves we do and we keep going
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but then we procrastinate
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or then we repeatedly show up late to meetings
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or we are afraid because we feel like
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we don't deserve the success
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because of the way we handle situations in our past.
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And so this is why we've got to be at one
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with who we are and love ourselves unconditionally.
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We gotta love the part of us that made those mistakes.
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Love the part of us that wasn't always perfect.
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And so the self-sabotage comes with
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constantly trying to control, trying to be perfect,
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not thinking you're good enough,
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not thinking you deserve to take up space
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and everybody else does,
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which so a lot of our empathic traits that we have
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are really caused a lot.
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We are empathic and we can feel other people's stuff
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but some of them are caused by some of the childhood trauma
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or some of the stuff we went to when we were younger.
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And some of us had really good lives
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and didn't have any childhood trauma.
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So we are like, but we still seem to self-sabotage.
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We still seem to think we're not deserving of the success
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or we're not deserving of the spiritual frequency
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or higher raise in frequency
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or when we don't deserve to be,
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have those gifts that a medium does
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or we don't deserve to have the psychic gifts
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or we don't deserve in reality we do.
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We are all equal, no one is lesser,
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more superior or inferior than us
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and we all have gifts, spiritual gifts to tap into.
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And what we do is we think we're not good enough
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or we think that all of the stuff
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and we self-sabotage ourselves, becoming our best selves
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and we self-sabotage and stepping into our own power
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because we're holding on to this,
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this are not so great selves, not perfect selves,
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not, and we try and control the narrative.
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We try and control how it's gonna turn out
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or I want it to turn out this way
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without going through all this stuff.
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And so, and that's kind of impossible.
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And so we kind of either quit
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or we decide it's too hard
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or we just don't wanna deal with it.
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We don't wanna deal with it.
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We don't wanna deal with the change
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because when you spiritually grow,
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there's a lot of changes that happen.
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You lose and gain some friends, different friends,
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different family members
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and some of us don't wanna go through that.
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And so, or we don't wanna go through
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what other people are gonna think of us
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or I remember trying to, when I first became a medium,
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I was so fearful of what people were gonna think
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and it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it was gonna be.
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I created this narrative that was completely crazy
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and honestly, it was like one of the best things
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I ever did and I did lose some friends
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but I gained a whole bunch more
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that believed and loved me for who I was.
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So it's kind of like that.
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We don't want the change, so we procrastinate
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and we particularly stop ourselves from growing
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or we say I can't afford to go to counseling
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or I can't or I don't want to do the meditation
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or I don't, and a lot of times too,
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since I brought up meditation,
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I wanna talk to you about this.
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A lot of people are afraid of their spiritual growth
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because they're afraid of the dark side
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of not just their inner soul,
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but the dark side of lower frequency of spirits.
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They're afraid of the scary paranormal stuff
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that they're gonna be able to see
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or they're gonna be able to.
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So a lot of times when you confront that stuff,
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a lot of times it's your own stuff
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inside of you trying to come out
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and a lot of times it can be
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outside spiritual frequencies trying to mess with you
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because there are good, everything, just like people.
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There's good and bad spirits and good and bad,
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good and bad people and good and bad spirits
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and when you are at a higher frequency,
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then you can, for instance, when people sometimes
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are starting to meditate,
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they don't like the feeling of meditation.
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They don't like the feeling of kind of coming
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maybe out of your body or feeling the higher frequency
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and so they stop.
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And the thing is, is that's something
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you have to work through to, it's not always a bad thing.
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It's just different.
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We're not used to it, right?
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So we think, okay, I'm not used to this,
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I'm not sure what this is,
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so I don't wanna do this anymore.
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This makes me feel uncomfortable.
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And so we don't like that uncomfortableness
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and I'm just telling you two, paranormal stuff,
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you are so much stronger than any of those lower frequencies
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and you can step into your power
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and you have so much more power than them
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and a lot of times it's not even that,
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it's just that it's something different,
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it's something that's uncommon
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and we feel a certain way or we,
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and so we get scared and so we shut it down completely
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and that's exactly, that's not really what's happening.
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It's just that you're not used to stepping into your power.
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You're not used to stepping into this higher frequency
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and it's uncomfortable.
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It's not the way that you like to feel
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and because sometimes you feel like a frequency raise
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or you feel a vibration
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or you feel a certain way during a meditation
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and some people get nervous and they get scared
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so they wanna stop.
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And so that's the same thing as like doing inner work.
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You don't wanna feel that.
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You don't wanna feel that uncomfortableness
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and most of the time that's why we self-sabotage
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because we don't wanna feel that change
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or that uncomfortableness and I'm telling you,
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if you knew the power that you had
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or you knew just what your light was like
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and what you bring to the table and how powerful you are,
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it's every superhero's journey, right?
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They call it the superhero's journey.
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You grow up or you're in an uncomfortable circumstance
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or a comfortable circumstance
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that you don't really wanna change
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and then you go through this kind of growth thing
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or spiritual thing or very super powerful thing
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and this trial that you have to conquer
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and then when you get at the other end of it,
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you come out being so much more,
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every movie, every superhero journey is about this.
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They're all the same.
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They're all like you start out being kind of a nobody
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or nobody knows you
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or you're in a mediocrity, secret situation
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and then you go through this big trial
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and you go through this,
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you really test yourself and see who you are
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and you overcome this obstacle
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and then you become the superhero
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because you find your strength and your power
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and this is everything in life.
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This is if you want to create anything successful
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in your career or in your relationship
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or on your spiritual journey,
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you are going to embark on a superhero's journey, you are
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and people don't like the middle part.
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They don't like the uncomfortableness.
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They don't like the, so they self sabotage.
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They say they're not good enough to do it
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or they're not peril-free enough or they give up
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and to reach the superhero, superhero outcome,
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you have to get past the middle of the journey,
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the part that's the hardest.
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And so don't give up, don't stop
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just because it feels uncomfortable
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or don't because there were times during this
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mediumship journey that I was like,
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I don't really want to do this.
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And there are still times that I'm like, oh my gosh,
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do I have enough in me to do this part?
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Do I, it's like once,
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and that's the thing about spiritual journey
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or spiritual growth is once you conquer one superhero journey,
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you gotta go to another one.
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Just like any superhero, there is always a villain.
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There's always another villain that you have to fight
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or conquer and that's just kind of what this is.
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There's resting periods, but there's just always this.
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And so when you give up,
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that's when you kind of self sabotage
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because you're just not up to doing the middle part, right?
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So your superhero journey is an amazing one
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and you just have to, every superhero
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has to figure out their power,
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has to tap into their power and you all have it.
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You all have it, we all have it.
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So the ways that you can get through this
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is knowing that there's gonna be
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uncomfortable parts in the journey.
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And you can rest for a minute.
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You can be like, okay, I need to take a break from this
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and you can rest for a minute, but don't give up, don't stop.
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And understanding what your weakness is in your strengths,
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every superhero has a weakness and a strength.
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And they don't, they use their strengths.
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So Superman, his weakness is kryptonite.
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So he stays away from it.
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He knows he needs to stay away from it.
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Now he knows that that kryptonite comes from his own planet,
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something that's inside of him, right?
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But he also knows that it's hard to survive it.
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So he knows that it's not something he can overcome.
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So he's gotta stay away from it.
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And knowledge is power.
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So if you know, okay, just like I knew,
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I didn't know at first that my family gatherings,
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I was struggling with them.
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I didn't know it was because of something
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that I dealt with in the past,
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but on my journey, I realized that it was.
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So I had to conquer that thing that happened,
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or the thing that I went through during the divorce.
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I had to conquer it and love myself regardless
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so I could get past it now.
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And that's kind of how the,
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but I know that that's my kryptonite now.
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So I know because I knew and because I've learned it,
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I know how to, I know how to navigate it.
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And I know how to,
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if it's something I need to stay completely away from,
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or, and I need to develop a boundary around that,
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or if it's something that I can ease up
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and kind of contribute.
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So would my, so would the kryptonite make me be like,
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okay, I'm not gonna have any more family gatherings
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because this is what causes me to have anxiety.
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Or do I want to have family gatherings
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and figure out how to make it work for me, right?
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So Superman knew kryptonite wasn't gonna work for him.
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So he's gotta stay away from it.
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And, but he does know that he can conquer other things
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and become aware of that and, and go around that, right?
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So that's kind of how our spiritual journey is.
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We know, and that's what the kryptonite kind of
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honestly symbolizes our boundaries.
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So we can create, this is what I don't want to happen
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or this is what I don't want to do,
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but I know I can't give up.
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I can't give up.
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So the way that you can get through some of this,
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the superhero's journey without self-sabotaging
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is boost yourself esteem, know that you are so powerful.
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You have all that you need already inside of you.
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And I say that over and over again because it's so true.
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And if you need to go to counseling
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to work through some of those boundaries, do that.
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If you need to do words of affirmation
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and continually tell yourself every day in the mirror,
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I am enough, I am good enough
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and tell you absolutely believe it.
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I used to hate words of affirmation
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'cause I thought that they were a bunch of BS,
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but they're not, they're absolutely true.
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If you can look at yourself in the mirror every morning
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and look in your eyes and say, I love you,
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you are good enough, they start to work
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because your mind starts to believe it.
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So affirmations are huge.
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And befriend yourself, which means love yourself.
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Every single freaking part of yourself,
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the back part that didn't handle situations very good,
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the past parts, the past parts that went through
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all of that, the good and the bad of you,
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the good and the bad.
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You have to love and be your best friend.
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And sometimes we're our worst enemy.
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Sometimes we, like I can sit to a friend
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and say this and this and this happened
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and I am so down on myself and my friend can be like,
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but you gotta remember this and you gotta remember this.
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You need to be your best friend.
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You need to talk to yourself like you would a friend
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and say, give yourself some freaking grace on this.
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Really, honestly, be gentle with yourself.
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Make small goals and really,
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and instead of just making a goal,
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make little action plans, little tiny baby steps,
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not the whole elephant at one time,
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but little tiny baby steps to get there.
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The things that you are capable of doing,
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things that you know that you are gonna be
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out of your comfort zone,
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but that you're gonna be able to do.
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Really small baby steps.
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Like if you have a hard time getting out of your house,
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then don't make one of your goals to go to a big party.
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Make one of your goals to go for a walk around the block.
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Like know what your boundaries are.
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Know what you are capable of doing
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and go a little bit above and beyond that,
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not a whole bunch at a time.
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And make small changes 'cause we all, all hate change, right?
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So instead of like saying, I am going to,
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it's just like working out.
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I'm gonna start, if you like put a whole big,
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I'm gonna do this strict diet
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and I'm gonna do this exercise every day
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and then you do it for three days and then you're exhausted.
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So don't do that.
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Just say I am going to change up my lunch
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and I'm going to go for a 10 minute walk.
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So spiritually just be like,
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I am going to meditate for two minutes
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and it's gonna be in the shower.
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Or don't wake up one day and say,
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okay, I'm gonna meditate for one whole hour
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and I like don't just do little tiny things.
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Just do, I'm going to do a self meditation
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or a guided meditation for five minutes every day.
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It doesn't have to be an hour
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and I'm gonna do it on my walk
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'cause you can have active meditations too.
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The best meditations I've ever had is during runs
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when I used to run and I was training for a marathon.
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So know your strengths, know your weaknesses
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and don't, I mean, you wanna work on your weaknesses
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but you don't, if you know you're gonna fail,
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if you know it's kryptonite
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and you're not gonna be able to get past it,
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then don't mess with it, don't mess with it.
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And know your own power, really.
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I, this is the one that I just wish you knew.
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I wish you every day,
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I could just let you know how freaking strong,
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powerful you are and how loved you are.
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If you could see your light, everybody has a light.
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Everybody has the light,
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it's either your aura or your light of Christ,
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it's part of the creator.
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If you could see that, you would know,
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you would know how unstoppable you are.
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If you could see your spiritual team behind you,
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you would be so unafraid of things.
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You would be, have no fear
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if you knew the power and strength you had spiritually
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and the power and the strength you had
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behind you every single day.
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You would know your strength
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and you would know your worth
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and you would be unstoppable.
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And so that's what I want you to remember is know your power,
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step into your power and love who you are,
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all parts of you because you are so deserving
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and so, so worth it.
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So I just wish you could see the parts of you
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that your spiritual team sees or that other people see
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because it's amazing.
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So I hope that helps.
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I hope that helps you get past your spiritual blocks
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or your spiritual self-sabotage
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because you freaking got this
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and you have everything you need already inside of you.
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So, and I teach a class this,
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I think April 20, I can't even remember the date.
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I think it's the 26th, the 20, around the 20th,
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April, it's a Thursday night.
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And I teach, it's a local class stepping into your power.
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I also do have an online class coming up May,
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I think it's second.
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And it is an online class about your spirit guides
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and how you can connect to them
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and how they can help you on this journey.
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So one's online, one's in person if you're interested in that
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because your spiritual guides are there,
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they want you to step into your power.
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They want you to know that they're around.
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So I love you guys so much
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and I will talk to you guys next week.
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